Words Matter: How Words Shape Your Reality

Our lives are composed of words.  We think in words, communicate in words and experience life through the words we know.

Words can heal and empower us.  As we connect our words, starting with our thoughts, we build a path forward – for the day and beyond.  Using negative language and careless words, one finds challenges building up throughout the day.  When starting from a positive and conscious mindset, the day feels lighter, and beautiful moments show up.

The things we heard growing up often play in our minds like an unconscious playlist.  As soon as we become conscious of the words we use and how we think and speak about ourselves, we can change the old tune.   We then get to decide which of these words are true and can be used to validate ourselves when needed, and which are false and need to be released.Gemstones in a wooden bowl with words on them - smile, laugh, serenity, Hope, love, trust, believe, joy

What words do you find yourself using about yourself in your thoughts?  Do you inadvertently put yourself down?  Become aware and change the words in order to create the person you know you are and want the world to know too.

What words do you most use when you speak about yourself?  Allow your light to shine through the words you use about yourself.  Own your accomplishments, embrace your positive traits, and see the magical things that make you who you are – this is a powerful path to healing.

How do words from others impact you?   If someone pays you a compliment, do you brush it off and make your actions insignificant?  Or can you pause and receive the compliment in mind and body? 

If someone speaks carelessly to you, do you find yourself making excuses for their poor treatment of you, or can you speak up and let them know that such language is unacceptable?

As we become conscious of the words we use, stemming from the thoughts we think, we can bring powerful healing energy into our lives. 

Here are a few ways to change words from the past and call new things to you:

1. Be conscious: Note the words you use about yourself and to yourself, and the way you speak to others.  Choose kind, loving words with purpose.

2. Positive affirmations:  To change old programming, use believable affirmations.  For example, I always have a hard time with change, becomes, I am ready to invite new paths and opportunities.

3. Mantras:  Having a strong belief statement that you call on when you find yourself spiraling into a dark or negative state, is a great tool. Craft a statement that feels believable, and change it when it no longer feel effective.

How can you change your words to reflect the amazing, beautiful soul you are?

Many Blessings,

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This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022