Be Your Own Hero

Every good story has a hero, someone who will sweep in and make things better.  What those stories don’t teach us is that we all have the ability to be our own hero.   Sometimes we stumble, make choices we wish we hadn’t made, or feel weighed down by our circumstances.  Having low moments is normal, especially when we have been through trauma, but it is in picking ourselves up that we choose to support ourselves.  When we recognize this innate power we have, we can truly create our lives, moment by moment.

We come into this world with everything we need to make our dreams a reality.  The village that raises us – parents, educators, and society at large – teaches us that we need to earn what we get, or be worthy of it.  The truth is that we are all worthy. From the moment we take our first breath, and regardless of the choices we have made or experiences we have had, that worthiness remains true – we are the ones who forget our worthiness that exists within us. Our lives are not a competition but a journey of seeking and growth, joy and expansion, and learning to find our version of happiness again.Be your own hero.  You've got this.  S red superhero cape flies in the background

Since we are the ones who know our deepest desires and what is right for us, we cannot wait for someone to swoop in and choose a direction for us.  We get to be our own heroes.  We get to choose through steady, focused awareness and small action steps, which path our lives will take.

Be your own hero:

Remind yourself of what you are capable of:  Think back to a time when you surprised yourself with what you achieved.  We have all done that at least once in our lives.  It could be surviving a difficult time and picking yourself up to awake to a new day.  It could be standing up for yourself with others.  Or surprising yourself when you succeed at something you thought you could not do, for example doing a new yoga pose, speaking in front of others, or even creating something you did not think you could.  Remembering all these moments is a good exercise to bolster you when you need to be reminded that you are a powerful being.  Use this to go for what you want.

Acknowledge all the small victories: Perhaps it’s getting out of bed this morning and doing one thing to raise your vibration, such as meditating.  Or maybe you are feeling good today and did something new.  Cultivating conscious awareness of what we are capable of serves us as we heal.  Knowing that we have the innate strength and ability to overcome anything that is holding us back and create a life we love, is the beginning of a magical journey.

Trust in the support around you: Whether you have human supporters around you or not, we are all always loved and supported by Source/God/Goddess/Universe.  All we have to do is reach out and allow this support in.  Knowing that we are never really alone allow us to be brave in taking whatever our next step needs to be.

Just as you would step up for someone you love, and fight for them, do this for yourself.  Choose yourself and be your own hero – one step at a time, one day at a time – until doing this is as natural as breathing. I am with you, supporting you.

Many Blessings,



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022