Daily Dreams and Habits

Now that you have a better idea of what you want this year, the next step is to break things down into doable action steps.  Though you may not notice this at first, taking small actions daily towards your dream creates a steady momentum that brings it to your life quickly.

This day, this moment, is all we really have.  If we do nothing to change tomorrow, it will be one more day of reliving today. Yesterday is done and we can choose to shed any weight we carry from it, or we can allow it to keep us where we are right now.   We get to decide to change our lives through small consistent actions.  Instead of finding reasons that we cannot change things, we can choose little things that will make us feel good for having done them.

The key is creating daily action steps that feel manageable.A brown path with greenery on either side leading to open water. The words Dream Plan, do and your daily routine matters on it  Setting unrealistic goals that we know we don’t have the time for, or won’t stick to, means we quit before we get started.  However, when we choose just a few minutes a day towards shifting our lives, we are able to stick with this, and the continuous focus not only creates the shift in our lives, but we feel empowered in ways we never realized we could be. 

Knowing everything you want this year, write out in detail what you want your ideal day to look like.  From where you are right now, what one thing can you include or remove from your current day to move you towards these dreams?

Make a commitment that you will dedicate a few minutes a day to yourself and your future.  It can be 5 minutes of listening to audios that uplift your mindset, doing research, learning something new, or 15 minutes of a new habit that you can consistently include in your day.  Having a daily practice that you commit to with the same dedication that you commit to your job, empowers you to create the future you want.

We easily keep commitments we make to others but may not keep the ones we make to ourselves with equal fervor.  As you practice this daily habit, the feeling of giving to self is deeply empowering, and you will notice that your life begins to look different.  Opportunities appear unexpectedly, people who later become facilitators towards your dreams reach out to you, and you discover skills you didn’t realize you had.  When you say yes to yourself, the world says yes to you too.  Just as when you are in a bad mood and everything seems to go wrong, when you decide to give to yourself, Source/God/Goddess/Universe collaborates to bring you to the future you want.

What are you saying yes to yourself about today?  What is the daily habit or practice you are adding for yourself?

Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022