Taking Stock – You Are Okay

As the year closes, many of us tend to take stock of what we accomplished. At the start of the year, we set goals and targets that we may or may not have met yet.  Where you are right now is okay.

What you accomplished, or what you have to show from the start of the year until now, does not define your worth.  For many of us, this year has been a time of reestablishing our lives.  It’s been about creating balance, reconnecting, and getting back to unrestricted living.

We are always moving forward.  It may not be in a direction we would like to go, but we are still moving forward. Every experience, each person we interact with, as well as what we read, watch, and take in, all contribute to the direction we are moving in.  It is never too late to take a new direction and change where we are.  All it takes is a series of conscious, deliberate, small steps.  It is about moving forward with purpose instead of letting external circumstances lead.You are okay right now.  You are enough.  Love yourself.

You are where you are meant to be.  This is the space you are supposed to be in to receive the growth and awareness you need to move to where you want to go.  Perhaps this stop on your journey does not feel great, and perhaps you are unhappy with where you are.   The power of this moment is that you have gained the awareness of what you want and where you would like to go.  You have also gained the fierce need to step forward.  Being where you are has shown you which path you wish to take.

While it may not seem as if everything that happened this past year has been worthwhile, you have been learning, growing, and developing new skills.  We don’t always have proof of what we have accomplished because growth is not something quantifiable. 

If you take a moment to look at the person you were at the beginning of the year, compared to who you are now, you will see the shift.

Have opportunities arisen in the past year that required you to speak up more?  You found your voice and it can never be taken from you unless you allow this. Have you perhaps had to learn a skill in order to adapt to a new way of being?  You have gained knowledge and expanded your mind. As you look back over the last eleven months you will see the change.  With social media, we can look at our posts at the beginning of the year compared to now, and see our growth in black and white.  Even our photos tell the story of how we have grown and changed.

You will surprise yourself with how much you have learned – even though your life may not reflect this through monetary or other physical manifestations, it happened. 

Instead of looking at what you didn’t accomplish, acknowledge your emotional growth and development.  Then choose one small step to move closer to where you want to be.  It could be adding a daily reading or meditation practice, scheduling some quiet time in your day, or creating a vision board – whatever feels right to you.  You get to choose what is right for you.  Society, family and well-meaning individuals do not get to define what you should have accomplished – only you can do that because only you know where you have been, what you have experienced, and how you have grown.

Acknowledge yourself as the powerful, strong, creative being you are.  As you look back, remind yourself that you survived, you grew and there is much more abundance waiting for you to claim.     

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022