The most powerful love in this world is the love of self. It starts within and radiates out, attracting others to this field of love around us, and impacting everyone we come into contact with. When we can truly love ourselves, life is easier and more joyful, and we tend to gather people around us who love in that same way.
Self-love is a term we hear so often that it may have lost its meaning for you. Many of us are taught that to love and give to oneself first is selfish. However, we cannot give to another what we don’t have. We cannot receive love from others if we don’t love ourselves first. When we see ourselves as Source/God/Goddess/Universe sees us, we realize that loving ourselves is easy. We are all beautiful Souls filled with Divine Light, and while our experiences shape us, they do not determine who we can be or the life we can have, unless we give them permission to do this.
For most people it is easier to love another than to love self. We love the people around us every day in so many ways – perhaps in speaking a kind word, lending an ear to their troubles, supporting people in their good times and bad, or showing kindness to those we work with and serve in our work environments. We constantly share love and kindness with others, but so rarely give it to ourselves.
We perceive our worthiness according to our perceptions of our past life experiences and what we think we deserve. The truth is that there is nothing you need to do, be or have to be worthy of love. You don’t need to behave in any particular way either.
Loving self can be hard when you have experienced trauma, so a good way to start is to imagine how you would love someone else in your position:
- Be in a quiet, comfortable place. Close your eyes and imagine yourself taking a walk. As you do this, step outside yourself.
- Now turn around and look back – you see a person sitting where your physical body is; a person who is the mirror image of yourself. This person has had the same life, the same experiences and pain, and shares the same dreams and desires.
- Though they wear your face, in this moment, they are not you. As you observe their face, what features do you see? Can you see the beauty in this face? Notice the color of the eyes, or is it the soft smile that you see?
- Can you see Divine Light surrounding this person and radiating softly around their body? Look closely at the rest of this body – do you notice the strength, courage and power residing within? Each beat of the heart, each breath, and the constant flow of life within, speaks to the unlimited resilience of this person.
- Look deeper at this beautiful being. What do you want them to know about themselves?
- Will you tell them how brave they are?
- Will you tell them they are worthy of whatever they desire, that they have nothing to prove and nothing they need to accomplish to be worthy of love?
- Will you tell them that in every moment they are surrounded by the love of Source/God/Goddess/Universe and it is time to let that love in?
- This moment is a new beginning. Everything that happened before can be shed, allowing you to fully step into the now and claim the love waiting for you. Step back into your body and allow your words to nourish your being. Step into loving yourself – say to Source/God/Goddess/Universe, “I am ready to receive. Show me the love surrounding me.”
Living a life filled with love begins with loving self. Love yourself first and external love will pour into world. The world is waiting for you to choose YOU first.