Advocating from a place of strength

With the world in such chaos, it’s easy to let things bring you down emotionally.  Feeling the pain, fear, anger (your own and that of others) can lead to you beginning to feel hopeless and unhappy.

Perhaps you are one of the people out on the streets making your voice heard, or maybe you are educating yourself and sharing your knowledge with others.   However you are expressing yourself, to be fully effective in anything you are doing, you need to fill your own cup first.

Advocating for change, expressing your thoughts, opinions and beliefs takes great effort emotionally.

To come from a place of strength in our actions allows us to be at our most creative and productive.  Feeling weighed down from the negative state of your country, prevents you from inspired action.  Anything you try to accomplish from that place feels hard – impossible even – and takes great effort.  But when you recharge your being first, you allow yourself to give more to others and your world; a space from which you can take inspired action.  The result is that your accomplishments exceed your expectations.

Some of you might be empaths, feeling deeply the upheaval around you.  For you especially, it is most important that you take time and focus on YOU, along with your personal emotional needs. 

Then there are some who are on the path to recovery from traumatic experiences.  This anger about current issues can bring up old wounds, past fears and especially send you spiraling to dark places.  It is vital for those of us healing to separate how we feel from what is happening around us. 

Take a specified amount of time each day, whatever you feel is right for you personally (as this will differ person to person), and do at least one practice that allows you to put yourself in balance again.

Here are a few ideas of practices that quickly and effectively settle your emotional state:

  • Meditation – there are plenty of meditations freely available. I have created aBlog 2 Advocating from a place of strength meditation to bring peace and balance to the listener. Click here for free access.
  • Breathing – there are various breathing techniques to calm you and re-center Here is a simple exercise.  Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and exhale completely.  Then inhale for a count of 8 seconds.   As you are breathing in, allow peace, calm and balance to flow into you.  Then exhale for a count of 8 seconds, releasing any stress, anxiety, fear and anger.  Repeat this process until you feel centered and balanced.  If 8 seconds is too long, start with 4 seconds at first.  Breathing is one of the quickest ways to calm the body and mind, and relax the nervous system.   You can do this anywhere, anytime.
  • Taking a walk – walk around, truly observing your surroundings, focus completely on your walk. Listen to the birds and creatures, feel the sun or wind on your skin, feel the ground beneath your feet, take deep breaths of fresh air.  Empty your mind.  If you find your attention and thoughts drawn back to your worries, then stop and refocus on your surroundings.  With every step you take,  observe something new.  This relaxed focus will help to re-center you.
  • Crafting do some painting, drawing, or any other type of craft that relaxes and invigorates you.
  • Mundane, repetitive actions – chopping vegetables or folding laundry can be a quick stress reliever for some. The repetitive mindless action means that you can give your brain time to work though whatever is bothering you.

You may have another effective practice.

What practice do you find works best for you?  Leave your answer in the comments below.

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022