Being Present

Our lives are in constant flow. In all our busyness and the routines of our week, we forget to be present.  We miss the singular moment of time that we live in. The present moment is the only time we are ever in. 

The past is done and cannot be changed.  The future, however, is unfolding based on our now.  What we think, and where we place our focus and awareness, determines the future we create for ourselves.  If we constantly live in the past, we remain stuck, with our life on a loop.  If we are always planning the future, we miss out on enjoying the things we planned for that have now become the present, and the opportunities that have arisen in the present because of our planning.Words: Live in the present moment. Be present. On a blue background with golden petals

The power of the present moment is that we get a constant redo.  We also get to develop a deeper awareness of our lives and notice the meaning we create within each day.

Each new moment is an opportunity to start again.  We can, at any time, reset our vibration and change our mental and emotional state.  We can pivot our feelings incrementally to better feelings with each new thought.

When things are spinning out of your control, bring yourself back to the present moment. The act of coming back to the now creates space and allows you a moment of calm to recenter and to relook at what is going on around you.  

Return to the present moment by:

  1. Body awareness: Focus on your breath.  Allow the expansion and contraction of your lungs, and the steady rhythm of your heartbeat, to bring you into the present moment.
  2. Holding an object: You may be a more tactile person, in which case, having a tangible object to hold can be used to bring you to the present moment.  For example, holding a gemstone may instantly calm you and provide a pause to return to the present moment.
  3. Awareness and intention: Intention is a powerful force.  Set the intention to be more present and become aware of where your mind is going.  Gently bring yourself back to the present by using the space around you, your body rhythms, or anything else that brings a quiet pause and connects you to the present.

We are all different and as you practice being present, you will find tools and resources that work for you. 

Being present makes your perceived mountains shrink and the impossible situations feel doable. It also allows you the quiet focus to choose each moment with purpose, thereby slowing down time, so you feel less rushed, more calm and more capable.

I invite you, for the next week, to bring yourself into the present moment whenever you can.  Set the intention to do this and see what impact this has for you.  Let me know your experience.

Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022