Creating Love and Laughter in Every Day

At this moment in our world, no matter which part of the world we are in, we are all dealing with external struggles that weigh us down, and there are many things we have no control over.  This impacts the way we feel inside too.  If we allow the external to impact us within, life feels harder and perhaps even hopeless.  Reality is a space of chaos and fear right now. Instead of facing reality, create your day. At this moment in our world, no matter which part of the world we are in, we are all dealing with external struggles that weigh us down, and there are many things we have no control over. 

Create love and laughter:

Choose your input:
Don’t listen to or read anything that makes you feel bad.  We all get 24 hours in a day. What makes you happy? We can use the time we have to feed our Souls with things that make us happy, or we can use the gift of this time to listen to the news, reading about all the things happening around the world.  If we do the latter, we feel bad, and too helpless to diffuse this drama.  What we do have control of is how we feel.  We can raise our vibration to spread love and laughter to all we interact with, and in so doing, create a ripple effect of joy.  People who feel happy and cared about, naturally spread joy to others.  We cannot stop the external events but we can be a light, shining joy on others and allowing them to do the same for us.  Just think of the world we could create if every person could be a little more hopeful and a little happier, even for small moments every day.

Release:
Moving forward after trauma can be difficult, especially since, to survive our experiences, we created habits and belief systems to cope.  We also collected a lot of emotional baggage.  As we heal, letting go of this allows room for new and better things.  Write down the things that are weighing heavily on you.  This can give you a new perspective and help you realize that they aren’t that big. For those things on the list that still look and feel heavy, do a simple release exercise to symbolically say goodbye to them.

Write each item on a piece of paper and, as you do, remind yourself that it is okay to no longer hold onto this.  It is okay to let it go.  It may or may not have served you, but it is now time to say goodbye. Carefully burn the page or tear it up to symbolically release the emotions around that issue.  As you destroy the paper, intentionally release the hurt and heaviness – it begins the process of healing, creating room for love and laughter in your life.

Seek joy:
Finding laughter when you are feeling down can be hard.  Start each day with the intention to look for things you can smile about, laugh about, feel grateful for, or things that make you feel good. It may be savoring a treat, listening to your favorite podcast or spending time with people who make you feel good.  You may find yourself feeling down more than you feel happy, but when you consciously and continuously seek joy, joy appears. If you can find even a single moment of joy to start with, it will multiply each day.

We get to decide how we feel, what we will allow, and what matters to us.  No one else can do that unless we allow it.  Choose to be your version of happy, whatever that looks like, and live it fully and unapologetically.  Your joy will bring joy to others.  Just as we cannot listen to a happy, laughing baby without feeling some measure of joy, when we are around people who live from love and joy, we feel that too.

This week, set the intention to find moments of love, laughter and happiness, and watch what happens.  Share and let me know what you find.  Join me in my Trauma to Triumph Community where we walk the path of healing, and creating joy.

Many Blessings,

Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022