Gratitude in Healing

As we heal from trauma, we often feel emotionally unbalanced.  It may even feel like we are being led by our circumstances instead of having the power to create our day. 

We often hear about the power of gratitude, but when one is going through tough times, it can be hard, and may even feel annoying, to attempt a gratitude practice.  However, gratitude can be a great tool to create a small shift in your internal state. Each small shift adds up – soon you find yourself in a different space, with your life moving in a more positive direction.

 As you focus your thoughts towards better-feeling thoughts, you begin to feel a little bit better each time.A daisy on a rock with sunset in the background, and the words Thank you One thought triggers more thoughts on the same vibration.  If you can allow yourself to think a better thought than the previous one, you can slowly shift yourself away from spiraling downwards and move into a more manageable space.

Your emotions let you know what thoughts you are thinking and what vibration you are on.  When you are in a dark place and your thoughts are heavy, have a song, an audio file, a mantra, or anything that you can easily access and press pause on the way you are feeling.  When you feel down, you cannot immediately move to feeling good, but you can stop yourself from feeling worse.  From this space, you can begin to think about things to be grateful for.

The trick to finding the feeling of gratitude is to think about things you are truly grateful for, not those things that you think you should be grateful for.

When you cannot think of anything to be grateful for, start with your heartbeat – close your eyes, place your hands over your heart and feel the steady rhythm beneath your hands.  Put your hands on your waist and tune into your breath – feel the expansion and contractions of your lungs.  Look around you, listen to what you can hear – does anything spark a feeling of gratitude?  You could even feel gratitude for something delicious you ate.  What sparks your gratitude is irrelevant.  It is about creating a space for yourself within, that feels better with each thought and each moment.  

With practice and conscious effort, we can all find things to genuinely be grateful for.  Do this often enough, and it becomes a habit so that when you look at your life, it will feel more hopeful and filled with possibility.

You don’t have to walk this path alone.  I have been on this journey and, having the support of a healing community who truly understands what you are going through, is powerful.  Join me in my Trauma to Triumph community and let’s walk together into healing.

Many Blessings,




This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022