Have you been dreading the holidays? Or are you brimming with excitement, planning all the wonderful things you will be doing?
Either way, this year, I invite you to do it YOUR way! If we have gained one thing from the last few years, it is the knowing that breaking tradition and doing things differently, can easily be done if we have a good enough reason. Instead of sticking with the old, do something new this year.
If the holidays are a time of unhappiness, do it your way. Instead of giving in and celebrating with and for others, celebrate yourself. You deserve to have the happiest and most joy-filled experience. If you cast aside the expectations of others, and take time to be in silence, what would make this a happy time for you? Who would you like to be spending this time with? As we grow and evolve, the people we enjoy being with and the experiences we value, change. Check in with yourself each holiday to see if your holiday plan still fits who you are.
Every tradition started with someone’s thought. You can be the someone who creates a new tradition. Or be free-spirited, and instead of creating a new tradition, make the holiday a play-time and explore what feels good on that occasion. Not having a set attachment or expectation can be very freeing, and allow you to just show up as you.
What does your way look like?
- Who are the top 5 people you really want to spend this time with? It can be more than 5, or it can be just you – put yourself at the top of your list as a reminder that it’s all about you!
- What foods do you want to enjoy?
- How would you ideally like to spend the day? It may involve napping, sharing a home-cooked meal, or even going out for an experience or activity.
- What have you planned that you want to let go of right now?
- What would happen if you did let go of that plan? If there are others involved, could you talk to them about doing something new?
When we’re in a group of like-minded people who love and support us, collectively we tend to lean in the same direction of what matters and how time can best be spent. Doing things your own way does not mean ignoring what anyone else wants, but rather finding what feels good to you and how you can be in alignment with who you are. In this space, there is ease in being in community, especially when that community is your chosen tribe.
What would make this time of year magical and magnificent for you? Come and play in community as we explore this together.