Emotional Self-care

We’re at a time of the year where all the holiday deals are being revealed, and everyone is looking to stock up on things.  This holiday season, instead of filling your environment, fill your emotional cup.  Take time to feed your Soul and do what feels good.  It won’t require any capital and the payoff is profound.

Let’s refuel our emotional well-being with the same care and attention that we dedicate to our holiday preparations, and the same careful thought we give to things we wish to purchase.  We are more important than the things we own.  We have the power to draw to us the resources, opportunities and people we wish to have in our lives.  If, however, we are emotionally depleted, we feel stuck in a loop and cannot manifest our desires.

Feeding yourself emotionally allows you to connect to your personal power and creates space for everything you wish your life to be.Self-care written at the top of a journal page.  With a burning candle and a singing blow in th top corner

There are many free and easily accessible resources to help refuel yourself emotionally.  What it does cost, is time.  Can you make a little time to practice emotional self-care?  Perhaps start with 5 minutes first thing in the morning, even if this means waking up 5 minutes earlier.  Or you may feel that later in the day would be a better time for you.

Next, choose a few different practices that make you feel good, provide relief when you are feeling stressed, and allow you to feel calm within your body.

Here are few ideas:

  1. Search online for free sound baths. Gongs, singing bowls and tuning forks are among the many sound baths that can have a profoundly relaxing and healing effect  both emotionally and physically.
  2. Use essential oils. Diffusing a combination of essential oils in your environment can clear the space and relax your body.
  3. Listen to wisdom from your favorite selection of spiritual teachers. Having a variety to choose from allows you to access the specific wisdom that feels good in the moment.
  4. Practice conscious breathing. Focusing on your breathing and taking conscious deep breaths for a few minutes, calms the nervous system and relaxes the body.  When your focus is on the breathing, you are not aware of stress, and may even drift into a meditative state.

Play with different techniques to see what feels best for you.  Having a toolkit of emotional wellness resources means never having to look for what you need in the moment.

When you feel calm, grounded and centered, the world looks like a different place.  Focusing on our emotional well-being with the same care we give everything else in our lives, can create a powerful shift in how our lives look at this moment.  We can shift ourselves into a space of creation instead of a space of reacting to what we see and experience.

What are you doing to fill your emotional cup?

Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022