Embracing our new world

We find ourselves in a brave new world with new rules and an entirely new way of living.  Each day we wake and the things that we would normally do, we can no longer do.  Our routines, habits and even our way of thinking about our days, have had to change.

Change is never easy.  But in this new world, we are being asked to change at a rapid pace according to external timelines.  We don’t get to stop, breathe, pace ourselves and think about how to approach this.

So how do we cope with having to adapt so fast?

The first thing to note is that it begins in our mindset.  We can choose to see this as a crisis and feel angry, resentful and hopeless about it.  Or we can choose to see this as an opportunity for growth, change and taking steps to live our true purpose.

Embrace change

Begin by embracing the change, adapting your thinking and letting go of the old.  If you take a moment right now and consider what each day of your week usually looks like, you will find that you were probably doing things that didn’t serve you; that perhaps didn’t even make you happy.  Now you are given a golden ticket to completely change your life.  You have an opportunity to create habits and practices that serve you, to learn skills that empower you, to get still with yourself and find what matters to you.

This is your chance to create a new life for yourself.  It is your blank slate where you get to decide who you will be, what you want in life, what makes you happy, and how you want each day to look.  For the first time you get to stop and think about YOU!

Your old normal was defined by the job you had, the routines you created for your family, the diet that was most convenient at the time, the habits that allowed you to do as much as you could in one day, and the beliefs that you created.  But too often we find ourselves in routines that not only don’t serve us, but become a rut for us where we are not moving any closer to what we truly desire.

By letting go of the old and moving into a new normal we can use this special time away from all our existing routines and habits to listen to our voices and needs, to decide what each day will be for us, and most importantly to take time to know what our personal needs are – not the needs of those we love and care for, but our own deepest desires.

This is also a time to let go of past pain and, in the stillness of our new world, take time to discover what we need to heal.  It is an opportunity to press pause on our lives and take a few weeks to go within and begin the healing; to set ourselves free and give ourselves permission to choose our futures.

Right now, from a purely physical point of view, it should be noted that our immune system is affected by our nervous system and in this chaotic time, the most important thing is to ensure that we have a strong immune system.  We can start this from within by changing our mindset to view this time as an opportunity crafted just for us to do those things we have always wanted to do but never found time for.

What habits, beliefs or routines can you let go of that are no longer serving you?

Share and let me know. 

Be Well, Be Blessed

Santa

RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022