Finding You

Empowerment is not a race to get out of where you are and into your dream life.  As you start on this journey, you will continuously discover new things about yourself and you will find that your dreams and desires change because of the growth you experience.

Each step you take shapes who you are each day.  Practice something that helps to heal and empower yourself for a week and you will begin to see a difference in your life.

 In making self-empowerment a daily practice, we discover new strengths and skills. 

  • The next step is to develop these strengths and skills little by little. 
  • Pick one skill that makes you feel exhilarated, that you are passionate about exploring – work on that. 
  • Then move onto the next one, and so forth. 
  • Each new skill you develop helps you to grow, heal old scars and reminds you how powerful you really are.

On the other hand, we need to be conscious about loving ourselves on this journey. wood 4088609 640

As we discover more about ourselves, we may think back on past situations and what we could have done differently.  We may even find things about ourselves that we feel are weaknesses.  But the truth is that this is a perception.  On our journey of self-discovery, it is vital that we learn to forgive and let go of our perceived failures and weaknesses.  These perceptions are not our truths – we have made them our truths. 

There is no such thing as failure, only experiences that turned into lessons.  In examining these experiences, look for the lessons – not how you could have changed the outcome, but rather what you can take from it in shaping who you will be.

Every experience you have had, each interaction you were part of, has shaped who you are.  Some of the painful ones you may wish you could forget but together they have created the unique being that you are.  And who you are is who the world needs right now.  You may struggle with accepting this, but as you grow and get to know yourself on your journey of self-empowerment, the unique role you are meant to play will become clear to you. 

As you grow, your needs will change – keep trying things until you find practices that work best for where you are.

Empower yourself in the way that feels right to you and never let another dictate any part of who you should be or what you should do.  This journey is about YOU and only YOU.

What have you learned from your new empowerment practice?  I would like to hear about your experiences.

Be well, Be Blessed

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022