Feeling your way forward

In our crazy new world we need to take time to ask the important question, “How do I feel today?”  When we check in with self, we can put the brakes on our day or week spinning out of control.  Sometimes the answer we get is expected and sometimes it may surprise us.  Your answer may be one of joy.  Or the answer you get could be that you feel stressed, anxious or alone. Many of us can relate to that state. 

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Now, take a moment to look at the external happenings in your life and see if they match with the way you are feeling.  They very likely do.  The way we feel within is reflected in our external space and vice versa.

Choosing to know what we feel is a frightening prospect.  Sometimes the feelings we hold within can seem too big to face, or perhaps darker than we would like.

What we can do is to firstly acknowledge the dominant feeling we are experiencing at this moment.  Ask yourself, “Do I like this feeling?” If the answer is no, then consciously choose a slightly better feeling.   

To choose a better feeling, feel your way forward. This means that you take one step at time, in increments.  You cannot go from rage to happiness.  But you can move to anger then frustration and go up the emotional scale from there to find your way to contentment.

Where you are is okay.  You don’t need to feel differently.  There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. Your feelings are yours alone, shaped by your experiences, for better or worse.  Acknowledge that you are entitled to feel what you feel, but also make a conscious decision to choose to feel slightly better.  As you improve your internal state, this will be reflected outwardly in your life.

Shift yourself by using practices such as meditation, a gratitude exercise, listening to music, watching something funny, or doing anything that lets you feel a bit better.  You deserve to wake up feeling happy, alive, joyful, and looking forward to the day.  This may seem like a distant prospect, but it is there, waiting for you to claim your happiness.  You are worthy of it, no matter what any of your yesterdays or past experiences looked like.  

Take three deep breaths as ask yourself what you would like to feel.  Then consciously shift yourself in that direction.

What feelings would you like to choose today?

Many Blessings,

Santa

 

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022