I often see, hear and feel like I am back at the scene of the sexual abuse.  How do I get rid of these visions? 

These visions are often referred to as Flashbacks; “sudden and disturbing vivid memories of events in the past, especially as a result of psychological trauma”. 

Flashbacks are difficult to deal with.  They can be triggered at any time and by multiple different sources.  The memories feel very real, and often come with body memories as well. 

In the ideal situation, the survivor is self-aware enough to track or notice when the flashback is coming on, and ideally have time to get centered, resource themselves, orient to the here and now and focus on something that may serve as a resource (calming the activated, worked up nervous system). 

What can do if I am having  flashbacks?meditation 567593 640

Calling or talking to someone who knows you and can help you calm down, using scents, textures, extreme temperatures-particularly cold water or ice, brushing skin, and having something written that you can read as a reminder that you are presently safe and no longer in the old abusive experience, or calling on a memory where you have felt safe, are only some ways of resourcing.

Working with a somatic and/or mindful therapist, engaging in body work, and physical activities (such as dancing, yoga, running etc.), can be helpful in learning how to manage the activation that provoke flashbacks.

Do you believe that you’ve been experiencing flashbacks?

Have you identified practices/things that are particularly helpful to you? 

Can you identify or anticipate when you are getting a flashback?

Reach out to me if I can support you in any way on your healing journey.

Be Well. Be Blessed




This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022