Healing in Community

While healing is a solo journey in that we determine the pace, tools and paths that are right for us, the support of community is a powerful aid.

We are built for community – we thrive in supportive environments.  Community is about finding the right tribe for yourself – a healing space that supports and serves you on your journey, with people who are free of judgement and instead, filled with understanding.

Take a moment to check in with the people you interact with frequently.  Do they support you or trigger you?  Do they make you feel poorly about yourself, or do you feel lighter for being around them? 

We all have triggers that make us feel the way we felt in past situations. Often, when we are triggered, whether we recognize these moments as triggers or not, we react from that previous mindset. Breaking the habit of the reaction, and finding ways to respond better each time, allows us to heal the old hurts.   When someone or something triggers you, you can follow the old path, or stop it in its tracks, by developing practices that work for you.  Perhaps a practice such as a mantra, or breathing exercise can allow you to pause and reset your state of mind.   With practice, we eventually get into the habit of taking the pause and then reacting.  Sometimes it is about walking away from triggers until they no longer have control.

We all have past moments when we did not like the way we reacted, the choices we made, or even who we were at that time.Healing in Community.  A senset background over open water with the words healing in community.  Speech bubbles with words, healing, balance, empathy, calmness, serenity These past moments do not define who we are or what we can have in life.  Allow yourself the gift of forgiveness – say to your past self, “I did the best I could with where I was, and that is okay.”  Stand in front of a mirror, see the face before you as Source/God/Goddess/Universe would – a whole, beautiful and pure Soul.  Look yourself in the eyes and say, “I am loved.  I am worthy of whatever my heart calls for.”  Choose to surround yourself only with those people who lift you up, and avoid, as much as you are able, the people who keep you feeling as though you haven’t earned the right to happiness. 

We make conscious choices about so much of our lives, but often forget to consciously choose the people we interact with, for as we grow, the people around us may not be moving in the same direction.  We get into the habit of being around certain people, yet part of healing is developing the awareness of who supports you on your journey, and who adds to keeping you where you are.

Surrounding yourself with supportive people, or a community that meets regularly, gives you something to hold onto in tough times, people to reach out to when you need support, and the knowing that you are not alone. 

If you are seeking a community that fits you, join me in my From Trauma to Triumph community – a space to heal, grow and find a tribe.

Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022