Nurture Yourself like a Mother

In this month of May, as we celebrate mothers, I invite you to acknowledge the qualities of motherhood that reside in all of us.

The most notable quality we associate with mothers is that of nurturing.  We are often the nurturers for others, but how often do we nurture ourselves. You don’t need to wait for someone to nurture you, or for permission to nurture your being.  You can begin right now to give your being what it needs.  

If someone you cared for deeply was feeling the way you are feeling right now, what would you give them?  In that spirit, what can you give to yourself today? 

Part of nurturing is acknowledging the importance of yourself and your healing.  Nothing matters more than your well-being. Nurture Yourself written on a white cover of a spiral bound journal.  Roses and a gift box a spread aroundIt is far easier to give to others since we are often taught that putting ourselves first is selfish, when in fact it is the opposite.  When you are at your best, you have more to give to others.  When you deplete your being by giving to the people and commitments in your life, but don’t replenish your being, you eventually run dry – usually when you least expect it and often at a rather inconvenient time. 

Our bodies and beings will always protect us by forcing us to look after and nurture self.  We can choose to do it on our terms, or wait for our beings to protect us.  While this may not feel like protection at the time, usually showing up as a lack of wellness to force us to pay attention, it is an opportunity gifted to us, to pause and care for self.

Be a mother to your being and nurture yourself today.

What do you have on your personal treat list?  Make a list of things you would like to do to treat yourself; things that you would not normally do because perhaps it feels too luxurious and decadent to be done often.  Use this list to celebrate your wins, and to nurture yourself.  Remind yourself that your happiness matters.

What do you need to raise your vibration each day?  Perhaps it is listening to someone who inspires and motivates you.  Choose a time of day that you feel this act would be most nurturing for you.

What inspires you today that you can spend time thinking about, experiencing or dreaming about?  Can you find a picture or object that connects you to your inspiration?

Take time to nurture yourself each day.  Even if you only have 5 minutes to do this, pause and check in with your being.  Ask yourself what you need in this moment, then give it to yourself. 

What are you doing to nurture your being today?

Many Blessings,
Santa

RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022