Healing  – Part 2

Where does one begin their healing journey?

By the time you are asking where to begin your healing journey, know that you have already begun.

  • Know that there is no right place or time to embark on your healing journey.
  • As with any issue or concern, the first step is recognizing that there is a need, desire and right to heal.
  • Start your healing process wherever you are, get support for what is disturbing you at the moment. Most often, the challenges we are facing stem from previous unresolved (trauma) experiences.

 I’ve had the privilege and honor of working with survivors conflicted about healing and moving on with life.  There is a common psychological disturbance, that implies that if you (the survivor) heal and recover your life, then the crime and the traumatic abuse, must not have been that bad.

Survivors often struggle and wonder whether the healing journey is worth it.  They feel like the journey to healing is just too challenging and they can’t take the pain and disturbance of re-experiencing it. The everyday challenges, even while they are doing the healing work can feel overwhelming.

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With the help of a therapist and the appropriate interventions, one begins to understand the impact of sexual abuse and how it shows up in our lives. Often, understanding that some of the impact are the symptoms of addictions, depression, phobias, experiences of panic attacks, compulsive and impulsive behavioral patterns, and difficulties with interpersonal and intimate relationships, to name a few. 

  • Begin with being gentle with yourself, honoring your body through expressive movements, such as dancing, yoga, running, Tai Chi, the use of acupuncture, acupressure, massages, Reiki and nutrition.
  • And, engaging in activities that help calm your, thoughts and spirit, such as meditation, affirmations, visualizations, prayer, writing, and other expressive arts.
  • It is also helpful to identify a therapy or support group. Being with and knowing that there are other people that have experienced what (different but relevant) you have can be very powerful, especially if you get to hear from people who are at different stages of their healing.


How and when did you embark on your healing journey?

What have you found helpful?

What gives you hope and empowers you? 

What would you say to someone ready to start their journey?

If I can provide support to you, please feel free to reach out to me.  

Be Well, Be Blessed







This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022