There is No Immunity

How does being an immigrant influence the potential of being sexually abused?

I believe there is no direct correlation between being an immigrant and being sexually abused.  Unfortunately, sexual abuse and violence is an epidemic across the globe. 

In the United States only, there are 1 in 3 women,  1 in 6 boys sexually abused every hour – this only accounts for those crimes that get reported to authorities

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There is actually no immunity to Sexual Violence/Abuse.  Race, Class, Gender, Ethnicity, Sexual Orientation, Religious background, Economic background, nor Age, are relevant to sexual abuse.

However, I strongly believe that my immigrant status and the experiences of my immigrant parents and siblings had a huge impact on my life, and contributed to the exacerbation of my dysfunctional family system, which led to the sexual abuse.

Although by choice, my parents and family were separated when I was at a critical developmental age of 6 years old.  My parents were financially affected, as my father struggled to seek employment, lost his government employment status in the Dominican Republic, adjusted to not speaking the language in the U.S.A, and had little or no emotional and financial support. 

When we finally reunited in the U.S., we struggled with the adjustment of the multiple moves, the cultural changes, the lack of language access and never feeling like we belonged.  My mother, until her death, regretted ever leaving the Dominican Republic. I am glad that I eventually got to return to my birth country; my parents were not financially or emotionally established enough to provide me (us) with the opportunity to reconnect and reacquaint ourselves with our home (country).

 How has being an immigrant had an impact on the way you see yourself and your experiences?

I’d love to hear from you. If I can provide support to you please reach out to me.

Be Well, Be Blessed





This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022