Healing is a journey that has no map or guidebook because each person’s path, and their pain, looks different. How we feel things is determined by the experiences we have had, the environment we were raised in, and how we were raised. The people who were the guides in our lives defined how we processed emotions and in what ways we allowed ourselves to move forward.
Many of us don’t question these things until we are given a reason, usually as a result of an experience. Then we discover how we deal with people and situations. As a society, we are not given the mindset or the tools to deal with traumatic experiences, yet we are often faced with these experiences.
The path to healing is comprised of two parts. First, determining who you are and what feels right to you, without allthe outside voices telling you what to believe or what path to take. The second part is finding the right tools, resources and teachers that fit you, based on knowing what is right for you.
No matter who you were in the past, you absolutely deserve to be free of your hurt and pain, and to heal.
No one can define the right way for you to heal.
Whatever path you are on, there is no timeline for when you are healed.
No one can compare pain – we are all on our own journey. Someone looking in might think that what we consider great pain is a minor injustice, but we have the right to feel the way we do. No one can tell you what you are allowed to feel hurt about, or for how long the pain should last.
Living in the pain and focusing on the past, keeps you there. Feel what you need to feel in order to heal, but when it is keeping you stuck where you are, it is time to look for other tools and resources to move forward.
Powerful healing comes from a supportive community. This may include your loved ones, or it might be a community that fits you, such as my From Trauma to Triumph community gatherings. Find a supportive community space that allows you to be who you are and to heal in a way that is right for you.
You hold the power to create your tomorrow. Healing begins from within, one step at a time, one day at a time. Breathe and believe that healing is possible for you, no matter where you are. Know that there are people waiting to support you on your journey.
What is one thing you are doing that serves you in your healing journey? I am here to support you on your path – reach out and let me know what support you need.