Live in love with life, yourself, your future

When you been through trauma, part of healing is learning to fall in love with life again.  When we are hurting and in pain, this is can feel impossible.   You survived your trauma for a reason.  You may not realize it yet, but you are stronger and more courageous than you know.  Those past experiences shaped you.  While those experiences should not have happened, they were the fire that forged the new you.  Now you get to rise up and consciously choose the future you want.  This is your time.Santa 1

Open the door to possibility in your life.  Be ready to receive.  The future you desire is here, waiting for you to claim.   You can find your way back to being in love with life.  Just like a relationship with any other person, falling in love with your life is a process and takes one step at a time. The more you can fall in love with your life, the more life gives you to love.

5 Ways to fall in love with life again

  1. Breathwork:
    This is the cheapest and easiest way to find your center.  Really focusing on your breath allows you to get in touch with the miracle that your body is.  It also calms your nervous system and provides a pause.  You can use this pause to reset yourself. Use breathing to slow yourself down when you are spiralling in a direction you do not want to go.  Use it to clear your mind of thought by focusing on the breath.  This will silence your mental monologue.


  2. Journaling
    Writing in a journal daily can be healing. Write down 5 things that happened in your day that you appreciated. It can be a simple thing like a meal, five minutes of peace, or even a book you enjoyed.  As you focus on the good or pleasant things that happened, and relive those moments, you raise your vibration.   Use journaling to change your mental state on a subject.  Write down what you are feeling and, next to it, write what you would like that situation to be.  Really focus on your ideal and feel what it would feel like.  The more clear a picture you can create, the more of a mental reality it becomes.  As you think of the situation, only focus on what you would ideally like it to be. 

  3. Self-care:
    Self-care is a way of showing yourself that you matter.  When we take time to care for ourselves by doing something solely for self, we begin to raise our self-worth.  Take time to do one thing for yourself each day.  It can be taking a bath, painting your nails, reading a book, playing a song, or listening to or watching something you enjoy.   Bask in yourself in some way.  Make sure you are doing what makes you happy and feels good – this act should only be for you, not for someone you love, or because it is expected of you.  Giving to yourself first means you have more to give to those who matter most to you. 

  4. Learning a skill that makes you feel empowered:
    Is there something you have always wanted to learn?  Now is the time to go ahead and do it.  If these past months have taught us anything, it is that life can change quickly and we can adapt to those changes, and embrace them.   Learning something that you are passionate about will raise your vibration, give you a new skill, and remind you what makes you happy and why you belong in this world. 

  5. Finding your tribe:
    Find people who uplift, encourage and support you.  Today, there are many virtual communities where you can find the right tribe for you.  Connect with people who support you in every way, unconditionally, and allow you to be yourself – they become a reminder from life that you belong, and they keep you motivated.  Search for a tribe that fits you today.
What do you love about your life today?

Many blessings,

Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022