Love Yourself Today

Do you show yourself the same love and care you show others?  Do you give yourself the same level of attention that you give to others?  How you love yourself teaches others how to love you.  It’s so easy to show love and kindness to others, but we tend to be hard on ourselves.  We tend to judge and criticize ourselves and hold grudges against ourselves for our perceived failures.  When we learn to love ourselves first with the same focus with which we love others, life becomes a beautiful adventure.

Healthy relationships are built on meeting each person as a complete being – a being who knows their own worth.  This knowing comes from practicing love towards self.

Show love to yourself by:

Being kind to yourself:  We’re human and make mistakes or don’t do things we wish we had done.  Show yourself the same love, kindness and patience you would give to another person in your situation.

Celebrating yourself:   When last did you celebrate your wins?  Take time to celebrate your successes – both the big achievements and the small wins. Celebrate the innate skills you may not have acknowledged – your strength, resilience, persistence, skills and talents.  Celebrate yourself and the world will learn to celebrate you too.

Creating self-care rituals:  A light wooden background. In the center is a brown journal with a red rose and the words, I heart me. Around it, the words, express yourself, love yourself, be kind to yourselfBy nature, most of us are driven by our habit and rituals. Creating a dedicated time each week, or if you cannot make that work, at least once a month, will nourish your being in a the most fulfilling way.  Self-care rituals could include a day of getting your hair done, having a massage or spa treatment, relaxing in a bath with a book, being in nature, meditating, or doing anything that makes you feel indulged, cared for and satisfied.

Setting boundaries:  Part of giving to self is knowing when to say no.  It can be done in a loving way, but when your desire conflicts with what others want from you, and saying yes would be a disservice to self, then the answer needs to be no.   Saying no is a healthy way to protect yourself and your needs.  Setting boundaries allows us to create healthy, fulfilling relationships.  When all parties know what is expected of them, everyone thrives together.

Expressing yourself:  Whether It is the words that need to be said to another, an opportunity to shine at work, or a chance to be creative, expressing yourself opens doors. Have you had an idea that you didn’t share because you weren’t sure of how it would be received?  Go ahead and express that to someone – test it with someone you trust first if you feel nervous and, if you are certain of it, share it today.  Maybe you have been holding something within that is becoming an issue for you – go ahead and lovingly have that conversation that needs to be had.  We can talk about tough things in a loving, open and caring way.   Express yourself through painting, dancing, art, or in any other way that feels good.  Sometimes just dancing to your favorite songs can be a powerful release and reset.

 What one loving act are you doing for yourself today? Join us as we explore self-love in community.
Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022