Our emotional body – how to use it for healing

Our emotional body is our guidance system, our steering wheel and our barometer in our lives.  Our emotional state is our window into what is really going on in our lives – within our being and externally too.

How we feel at any given time influences the way we respond to a person or situation.  If you are feeling stressed and unhappy, you are more likely to react negatively and in so doing, receive a negative outcome from the interaction.  This then has a ripple effect on your being, with each negative outcome, causing you to feel more unhappy each time.  The woman sittingresult is that you end up having a bad day.   If you feel like you are always rushed, there is never enough time, then that result manifests into your reality.  But if you take a moment, calm yourself, believe that there is enough time to complete everything you desire, you will find that is the result you get.

Our emotional body state is translated to our physical body, and often times, manifests physically in our being.  A simple example is when you are feeling despondent or unhappy, you may find yourself feeling exhausted physically.   

Every experience and interaction we have ever had adds to the make-up of our emotional body.  This is why we find ourselves experiencing a disproportional reaction to a current situation or experience – our reactions are colored by past emotional experiences.  Current experiences act as a trigger for past emotional wounds.

If we have experienced trauma, then our emotional body gets weighed down from the pain and hurt we experienced.  In this state, we may find ourselves spiraling into a dark space.  However if we can do even the smallest thing to change our state, we can open ourselves to healing.  It is not an easy process.  Changing your emotional state when you feel like you are at the bottom of a deep hole is daunting, and you may feel as though you just don’t have the energy to make this change.  However by taking even the smallest action, you can move to a state of healing.  At first it may feel false or as though you should not be allowed to experience a happier state, but if you persist, you find that the darkness moves further away and the light nearer.

By changing the way we feel emotionally, we can change our entire lives.  In other words, cleansing the emotional body will give way to physical healing as well as enabling you to create the life you desire.  When you feel happy, you find happy experiences and situations.  The trick is feeling happy when external circumstances are challenging.

To cleanse your emotional body, here are 3 methods:

  1. Start by sitting in a quiet, peaceful space that makes you feel calm – perhaps it is outside or in a certain area of your house. Take 5 deep breaths of 5 seconds each. Notice your strongest emotion, for example anger.  Find one thing to counter the anger e.g. something humorous you read. Watch the anger fade slightly.  Repeat this step and you will notice tiny changes which add up to a bigger change.  This in turn will shift your emotional state. As you shift each dominant negative emotion to a more positive one, eventually you find those darker emotions no longer fit your life. 
  2. Use tools like a meditation or audio that you can listen to that will help you shift your emotional state, or read something that leaves you better off. If you do this as a daily practice, you will find that it becomes easier to shift your emotional state when you need to. 
  3. If you are having a bad day: Take note of how you feel at that moment.   Take 3 deep breaths of about 5 seconds each.  Then do something to shift your energy.  Movement like dance is an option.  Or practice a gratitude exercise – find 5 things you can be grateful for, such as something personal that makes you smile or a small thing that you genuinely feel grateful for.  Then take another deep breath and release.  This exercise can help change the trajectory of your day by shifting you off the path of negative attraction that you were on. 

What step can you take to cleanse your emotional body today?

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022