Releasing Limits

We all limit ourselves in some way, and where and how is based on our life to date. The village that raised you, including the school you went to, parents and other adult influences, and the environment you grew up in, has shaped what you believe to be true about yourself.  These beliefs get fine-tuned by your experiences.

We tend to limit what we think is possible based on our financial circumstance, the responsibilities we currently have, where we live, and what we believe about ourselves.  As children, we dream without limits until well-meaning adults teach us not to.  Babies expect to have their needs served, never for a moment thinking they do not deserve this. As we grow, we begin to form beliefs that we need to meet certain benchmarks to get what we desire, when the opposite is true.  There is nothing we need to achieve or conform to in order to have that which we desire.

Nothing in our past needs to determine what we allow for ourselves in the present and future. Perhaps you ventured down a certain path, ignoring the voices around you, and this resulted in a bad experience. You may have taken a leap of faith, believing in your abilities despite the external voices discouraging you, and then it didn’t go as planned.  Instead of forming the belief that you cannot trust your own judgement, rather ask, “What was the lesson from the experience, and how can I change the outcome in the future?”Blue sky background with sparkles of light and cloud and the words, Limits being in the mind. Be open to possiblitites

You may be looking at your current circumstance and thinking within the scope of what is, instead of what can be.  Thinking about what is keeps us stuck.  Thinking beyond that, without limiting ourselves, opens us up to possibilities that always existed, even though we didn’t see them before.

Release your limitations and open yourself up to what you want.

  1. Let go: Decide that whatever happened in the past is no longer relevant.  The only thing that matters is what you decide from this moment on.  Keep the wisdom gained and release any blame, shame, guilt and fear.  Today is a new day. Now is a new moment for you to begin again and follow your dreams.

  2. Gift yourself time in a comfortable, quiet space without reminders of your daily responsibilities. Breathe deeply for a few minutes to center yourself.  Ask yourself in what ways you are limiting yourself.  What do you perceive as the thing that stopped you from going after your dreams or living a life that brings you joy?  Write this down, for example, “I work long hours.”  Next, write the beliefs you hold about that limit, such as, “I need to provide for my family and I won’t get something better.”  Now ask yourself if you really believe that or if it is something you heard so often that it has become true for you.  Can you find examples of people you know in similar circumstances who have overcome this limit?   This is a reminder that while we may have current limitations, they need not hold true for the future.

  3. Open yourself to possibility: Knowing how limiting beliefs have held you back from what calls to you, relook at your dream and your ideal life – ask: “What, in this situation, is true right now?”

Turning our mindset from fighting for our limitations to freeing ourselves and exploring life to the fullest, is not easy, yet it is worth the effort.  The shift in perspective opens doors and brings us closer to the life we desire.  Shedding limits releases weight we were not aware we were carrying, and allows us to bring in the new.

What limits are you letting go of today?

Many Blessings,



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022