Dear Reader, over the past 14 weeks we have looked at what it takes to create sacred relationships.
Relationships in which we all make a commitment to support each other’s growth and wellness because we believe in each other’s innate goodness and highest potential, are sacred relationships.
The 14 steps I have shared about practicing intentional communication, infused with self-awareness, loving kindness, honesty, contentment and generosity serve as a guide to developing sacred relationships and partnerships.
In every exchange, do your best to bring a positive outcome, bearing in mind that a relationship involves two people and for a successful outcome, it requires both parties to work together. You are responsible for your part and the other party for theirs.
Here is a quick overview for you to print and keep as a reminder. Building sacred relationships is an on-going process and must be continually worked at to maintain success.
Step 1. Maintaining Conscious Dialogue: This means using active listening and listening with the heart.
Step 2: Never Make Assumptions: Ask for clarity – especially when you are doubting, feeling self-conscious or judged; or when you are in need, vulnerable, scared or hurt.
Step 3. Eliminating the Score Card: A Score card is a system that we consciously or unconsciously use to keep track of every interaction in which we feel we were wronged or let down. For a successful relationship, it is vital to eliminate the Score Card.
Step 4. Holding Each other to their truths: Expect your partner to be who you know them to be in their highest self. This means reminding them that you expect them to come from that place. It also means holding both yourself and your partner to each of your highest beings.
Step 5. Accepting continuous evolution: Know that you and your partner are always growing and changing – reaching for, evolving and transforming. Allow for the changes.
Step 6. Breaking the myth that partnerships are about compromising: Know that there is room in both and all members of a partnership to be all that they are – one does not take from the other, but enriches the other.
Step 7. Honor our Interdependency: Although connected and supporting each other, you simultaneously honor your own experiences, feelings, needs and reactions. Make the time to take care of yourself and your personal needs.
Step 8. Establishing pre-forgiveness: Know that even when you have hurt each other, it was not intentional. Do not enable each other to be “just human”, remember that as spiritual beings we have limitless ability to love, understand and forgive – while taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness.
Step 9. Taking a fearless and moral inventory of self: Agree to be in constant exploration and evaluation of yourself –honestly. Be committed to apologizing when necessary and coming back to admit when you are wrong. Know that it is okay to be wrong, vulnerable, and imperfect.
Step 10. Knowing the illusion of separation: You and your partner are always connected and there are moments you just need to ask for connection. The truth is that we are never separate – we only feel separate.
Step 11. Honoring each other’s authenticity: We are not our behaviors and attitudes; we are not even our actions. We just are LIGHT, LOVE, CONSIOUSNESS.
Step 12. Remembering your True Source: We are not the Source – we are never alone, even when we don’t have each other, we have SPIRIT; GOD-DESS.
Step 13. Making life beautiful: Continue to believe in sacredness, love and beauty. Choose to stay focused on the gift you are to each other.
Step 14. Accepting that we are co-creators: Understand and acknowledge the charge and benefit of being co-creator, with God-dess, with each other, with our fears, anger, resentment, illness and dis-ease, happiness, joy, success, wealth and abundance.
Wishing you much success in your journey to building sacred relationships.
Much love and light always