Step 5. Accepting Continuous Evolution

Who you are might not recognise who you were 15 years ago. 

Change affects all things including ourselves.  Each new experience, interaction, job, even our social groups we spend time in   – all of these have an effect on us and make us grow and change.

Every day we grow in little ways; and over time in big ways.  This evolution allows us to fully understand and know ourselves.

Change has a ripple effect in our lives – every bit we evolve affects our relationships in every area of our lives.

Have you ever studied something new, maybe travelled, dealt with major life challenges or had a profound experience, and thereafter when you took time to look around you, found that relationships around you felt different.  Some you lost, some you gained and some left you feeling lost.

So how do you incorporate your personal growth into your relationships?

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Step 5. Accepting Continuous Evolution:  


We are always changing, evolving and growing as individuals and in our relationships. 

Know that you and your partner are always growing and changing – reaching for, evolving and growing. 

Allow for the changes; don’t assume that your partner cannot change. 

Allow yourself to be content, and encourage the growth.

 Make room for the new truths, discoveries and evolutions.

 Know that you can show up different each time – don’t keep each other stuck in the past – move as you move.

It takes both your and your partner working together to achieve a successful, healthy relationship.


  • Would you be friends with the person you were 15 or 20 years ago, dear Reader?
  • Do you think that the evolution you have experienced recently has help to better your life and circumstances?
  • Have you and your partner allowed each other the space to grow and evolve?




This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022