Loving yourself starts with acknowledging that where you are right now is okay. You get to choose to move forward. You get to decide from the very next moment what direction your life will take. Love yourself with the same care you love others; show yourself the same kindness and respect that you give others.
No matter what you have been through in your past, the only voice that should be guiding you into your future is your own. Ultimately no one else knows you like you know yourself. You deserve to let go of anything holding you back. You deserve to live a life of joy, abundance and peace.