The Many Forms of Motherhood

This month we globally acknowledged and some celebrated Mother’s Day.

Traditionally when we celebrate Mother’s Day we think of our own mothers, grandmothers, and those around us who are mothers.

Mothers come in many different forms.

First there is Mother Earth.  She who gives us life through plants, animals, sustenance, and the beauty of nature.  When we tap into the gifts from Mother Earth we ground ourselves, heal our beings and release stress.  In turn, we have the power to give back to Mother Earth by caring for her well-being and thanking her for our daily gifts.

We can be mothers to others in various ways. Mothers are those who give to, nurture, and care for the well-being of others.  This includes the act of loving another in a protective, supportive, and caring way. 

The spirit of motherhood is not based on gender – it is the ability to unconditionally love.   A loving mother loves unconditionally and seeks the happiness of their child.Pink background with sparkly dots in the shape of a heart

Those of us who have been through trauma can mother ourselves.  We do this by acknowledging our worth and taking a step at a time towards loving ourselves whole again.  No matter what you have been through, you are worthy of being loved, and loved powerfully, by the most important person in your life – YOU.

The qualities of motherhood include strength, unconditional love, nurturing, and protection, among others.

Mother yourself this week by:

  1. Acknowledging your strength. You are here right now, reading this.  Perhaps today your greatest show of strength was getting up and getting dressed.  Acknowledge this success every day, with the intention to find a new strength every few days.
  2. Take a single step towards unconditionally loving yourself. Too often we berate and find fault with ourselves more than we notice our worth.  Every day, take one step towards loving yourself a little more.  This can be anything from practicing self-care or looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you”.  If this feels too big, start with, “I see you, I feel you and I move closer to unconditionally, unapologetically, loving you each day.”
  3. Nurture yourself by doing one thing each day that feeds your soul. Perhaps this is taking a walk, meditating, journaling, or listening to your favorite spiritual teacher.
  4. Protect your being by saying no to things that do not serve you and yes to opportunities that scare you. The other part of protecting yourself is consciously shifting your emotions from negative thoughts about yourself to better thoughts, until your thoughts about yourself bring you joy.  Our greatest hurts come from our darkest thoughts. You are your best protection, starting with your thoughts. 

May you shine your light, your spirit of motherhood, on all the lives around you.

We can change the world around us, one person at time, starting with self.

Many Blessings,

Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022