Fear within the Present

Our fears can show us the best path forward, or they can define who we will be. Even though our life experiences are different, and thus we all view the world differently, the one commonality that binds us as humans is our natural inclination to be guided by our fears.

Fears are powerful whether they are acting as protector or creating a cage and keeping us stuck.

Through our past experiences we create unconscious rules and practices, defining what is acceptable and safe, and what should be avoided at all costs. This dictates our behaviors and the way we react to people and situations. Even when those rules are no longer relevant and do not serve us, we remain in that space mentally. We limit ourselves and what we believe is possible in our lives. Our daily routines become so automatic that we rarely stop to think about what we are doing, why we are doing it, or the order we are doing it in.Today is a new day - on a white wooden slat background with little flowers in the corner

Just as dust gathers in our homes, so too does old programming accumulate in our minds. A little mental housekeeping can help us get unstuck and create a life of joy.

Mental housekeeping for the present:
1. Is there something you would like to do but keeping finding reasons not to? Are these reasons still relevant or are they old fears on repeat mode?

2. If there was nothing stopping you right now, what would your day look like? What work would you be doing? Who would you spend more time with, or spend less time with? Can you make this a new reality? Instead of going through the motions and functioning from habit, stop and see what still fits, what you can change, and what you can let go of.

3. In your interactions with others, ask yourself if you are responding from fear. Is your reaction really the way you feel or is it a past fear that may be attempting to protect you in this moment, but is no longer relevant? Asking yourself this can completely change your interaction with another person. In a relationship with a loved one, it can deepen the relationship when you are able to realize what is true for you now, and what is programming from the past.

4. When old fears and insecurities pop up, as they do when we are in a growth period, acknowledge them. Listen to the messages and the wisdom that lies within the messages, but do not let them govern your future by limiting you in the present.

Live in the present, creating each day anew. As fears surface, examine them.
• Recognize your growth since you last felt this way. You will realize that you are not the same person you were back then, and this helps to diminish the power of that fear.
• Visualize what the situation will look like if you push through the fear and say yes to whatever this moment has brought you. Do you like the picture this creates? If you do, say yes, knowing that you no longer need the fear to protect you, and can bravely step into the future.

Today pick one thing that you would like to do that you haven’t because of a past fear.
Explore the possibilities that lie within.
Many Blessings,



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022