Get Unstuck: 4 Steps to Transform your Life

Have you been feeling as if life is moving along in much the same way as always, yet time is moving at a faster pace?  We tend to be so focused on getting through each day, that it quickly becomes a week, and soon months have passed.  With the responsibilities and commitments we have in our lives, it is so easy to be focused on getting through each item on our list, that we don’t stop and take notice of whether we are actually moving in the direction we wish to go, standing still, or taking a path we don’t want to be on.

Our world has been in so much flux that bringing any change into our daily lives can be something we simply shut down.  Yet, when we had no choice, change became a way of life. Grey wooden background with blue flowers on the left, and a sticky note with the words, Live the life you love. Get unstuck

Sometimes we need to shake up our world and interrupt our routines, choosing our own change.  This can be a catalyst to creating something new in our lives. Instead of waiting for our world to be shaken up by external circumstance and being forced to do things differently, we can choose to bring change on our terms.  We can create the life we want instead of moving along on a path that we ended up on by default.

1. Stop and evaluate where you are now:  What is working for you?  What is not working for you?  It may be that you wish to exercise more or change your eating habits.  Perhaps you are looking for a career change.

2. Be open: even If what you want seems impossible, or you cannot see how your desire will happen, that does not matter. It is not up to you to figure out the how – just know the what and the why.  When we know what we want, and our deep reason for it, we call possibilities and opportunities into our lives.  Be open and allow yourself to dream.

3. Set your terms: At what point does staying where you are no longer matter?  When we are forced to change our diet because our health is suffering, we do.  In the same way, we can choose to make the change instead of being forced to do so.  We can decide what is no longer acceptable and begin to implement the changes we need to get to our desired outcome.  What are your terms for when the change is a yes for you?  When you have a clear vision of what you want, it is time to make this change.  Every change is uncomfortable at first but it quickly becomes a habit if the outcome matters enough.

4. Create change with small consistent steps: Start with what your life would look like if your desire was fulfilled.   Going all in may work for some people but doing this may not have a lasting effect for most of us.  Taking small steps that feel doable is the key to changing where you are. Though you may not see the impact immediately, it will reverberate.  As each little step becomes a habit, you take yourself to the next level.

Choose the life you want and claim it today. What new change are you bringing forth this week?

Many Blessings,



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022