Gratitude and Your Mind

The mind is our most powerful tool for healing. 

Studies have proven that there is correlation between gratitude and well-being – gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces negative feelings and toxic emotions. Taking control of our thoughts allows us to control the way we feel, which in turn helps us to take the steps we need on our journey of healing and life.

The best place to start taking control of the thoughts you may not be aware you are even thinking, is to begin a daily practice that forces you to think uplifting thoughts.  The more you do this, the more it becomes a habit to notice your thoughts throughout the day.  The mind is like any other muscle – we need to train it in the direction we want it to grow.

Experiencing trauma or darkness in our lives often leaves us feeling unhappy, angry, hopeless and experiencing many other negative feelings.  This is where the practice of gratitude can make a profound difference to us.  By stopping the negative spiral, and even just mentally making a gratitude list of all we have to be grateful in that moment or day, we can change how we feel and where our day goes.  It is never easy to do, but with practice, this can become a tool to keep you in a better place.

Finding gratitude in our resiliency and our post- traumatic growth allows us to see just how strong and capable we are. It also gives us the strength to realize that despite the trauma we have faced, we have what we need within to heal.gratitude 1251061 640

Recognizing everything that you have to be grateful for even at the worst times in your life, helps to open your eyes to what you have overcome, survived and already have.  In this space, you are able to find faith and strength to know things will get better.

Equally important is to celebrate our successes.  Finding gratitude in your success helps you recognize personal and professional growth, and gives you the knowing that the next step is reachable; that you have the capabilities within to create the life you choose.

Here is a simple exercise to help you find gratitude around you when you are going through challenges:

Take a moment to consider your senses:

  • What can you see around you to be grateful for? Your home?  A special achievement you worked for?  A loved one?
  • What sounds do you hear that you can appreciate? You child’s voice?  Music?  The birds and animals around you?
  • What smells do you notice? The smell of rain? A good meal? A loved one’s unique scent?
  • What can your hands touch that you are grateful for at this moment?
  • What about taste? Can you eat something right now that reminds you of a wonderful memory or experience?

When you can find gratitude despite what you are experiencing, when you can truly feel that gratitude within, you can experience a shift in your life.  This empowers you by putting you in a better place, and readying you to take the next step on your journey of healing and recovery.

What moment of gratitude did you experience today?

Share and let me know.

Be Well, Be Blessed




This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022