We have been shaped by the people who raised us, the adults we interacted with while growing up, the schools we attended and all our past experiences and interactions. We created ways of doing things, habits of thought, and automatic responses and reactions based on these external influences. When last did you check in with yourself to determine if the way you live is according to who you are and not the influences and expectations of others?
Do you know who you really are? Have you taken time to find out? If not, take this moment and explore with me:
YOU – you are the most important person in your life. Your Soul knows what calls to you and who the real you is. Only you get decide what really matters to you, how you dress, what you care about, and what you want out of life. No one else has the right to choose for you. Claim your personal power and let yourself shine. Neither your past experiences nor the people around you can dictate your path unless you allow them to. Take a journal and explore what your life would look like ideally, starting with these areas: relationships, health, finances, career/business, interests, and adventures you desire. What, from this list, can you bring into your current reality?
Invest in yourself:
When last did you invest in yourself? We easily spend time and money on things and people, including family, house maintenance and more, yet we feel the need to justify spending on ourselves. Perhaps investing in self could be going for a spa treatment, studying something new to upskill or for the joy of it, spending on your personal or spiritual growth, or perhaps taking time off from work to recharge. Investing in yourself is showing love to yourself and, much like breathing, it should be a normal, vital part of life. In what way have you been wanting to spend time or money on yourself and how are you going to make this happen?
As we evolve, the people around us are not always on their own growth journey. We may find that people we used to love being around don’t feel quite the same anymore. Perhaps it feels as if they are not as supportive as they used to be, or it might be stifling or uncomfortable to be around them. Our lives are intertwined with each other for a reason – sometimes we are the teacher, healer or friend, and sometimes we are on the receiving end of this. Strong, supportive relationships grow with you, and those that don’t, may no longer fit the new you. Letting go of people that do not serve you can be painful since you may have a deep history, but who you are now is as important as the person you were then, and if they cannot support this growth, then they have become your challenge instead of your cheerleader. When you choose to give your time to the people who support the journey you are on, you will find a tribe that fits, and you will notice your life moving in the direction that calls to you.
In some way, we are all healing. Part of this journey is knowing, connecting with, and loving self. No matter what your past looks like, this is a work in progress for all of us. It can be work, or it can a be an adventure of discovery and possibility. You get to choose.
If you are on a journey of exploring self and looking to do this in a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space, join me in my Trauma to Triumph community. It is a space to heal, grow, and celebrate self, whatever that looks like. Join here.