We come into this world with a knowing about who we are and what matters to us. As children, we begin to define who we are based on the perception of ourselves we were given by the adults in our life. As we hear what is said about us, or see ourselves the way our parents and teachers have, we tend to shape who we are accordingly. Life experiences add to this and we forget who we are at our core. We become defined by other people, past experiences, and our roles in this world such as mother, father, work designation and more.
At our core, we already know who we are, what matters to us, what we like and dislike, what we want from life, and what we want to give to the world. It is time to reconnect to the person you really are and share this person with the world.
Step into who you are in these ways:
1. Check in with yourself about the daily things you do.
Do you dress in a way that feels like you, or are you dressing to please others? Can you instead reflect your true self through the layers you wear? Do you know what foods you like to eat now, and does your daily diet reflect what you want to it to be? Are your activities, exercise classes, and recreation methods based on things that you still want to do, or did you get into them because of what someone else wanted you to do and forgot that you would rather be doing something else?
2. Choose one thing you have been doing because of others’ wishes that, if you were being true to yourself, you would do differently, and act on it. For example, perhaps you tend to host formal gatherings when you would rather have game night, or maybe you always serve a special dinner on Sunday, when you would prefer to do that on Friday. Check in about what you are doing that is not actually for you, and how you can change this to fit who you are now.
3. Speak up for yourself when you need to. It may be daunting at first but, with practice, it becomes more natural. We all have the right to live a life that makes us happy, and not feel that we are deferring who we are to others. Speak up at work and in your personal life when you need to. Sometimes this will be extremely uncomfortable and difficult, but the alternative is to compromise who you are. Sometimes those around you don’t even realize that your needs are not being met, and speaking up moves the relationship forward and creates a more harmonious environment for all.
Who you really are is exactly what the world needs right now. Your unique gifts, perspective, energy and experiences make you a unique being who can offer this world something no one else can. This does not mean being in the spotlight, writing a book or getting your name out there. You have an impact through every single person you interact with – let them experience who you are.
No matter what has happened in your past, you deserve to live fully and unapologetically as you!
What are you doing today to take a step into claiming who you are fully?
Many Blessings,
Santa
