It’s Time: Embrace Who You Are

We come into this world with a knowing about who we are and what matters to us. As children, we begin to define who we are based on the perception of ourselves we were given by the adults in our life.  As we hear what is said about us, or see ourselves the way our parents and teachers have, we tend to shape who we are accordingly.  Life experiences add to this and we forget who we are at our core.  We become defined by other people, past experiences, and our roles in this world such as mother, father, work designation and more.  

At our core, we already know who we are, what matters to us, what we like and dislike, what we want from life, and what we want to give to the world. It is time to reconnect to the person you really are and share this person with the world. 

Step into who you are in these ways:

1.    Check in with yourself about the daily things you do.On a pink sky background, sits a wooden sign post with the words "Embrace who you are", and next to it "you are perfect just the way you are."  Do you dress in a way that feels like you, or are you dressing to please others?  Can you instead reflect your true self through the layers you wear?   Do you know what foods you like to eat now, and does your daily diet reflect what you want to it to be?  Are your activities, exercise classes, and recreation methods based on things that you still want to do, or did you get into them because of what someone else wanted you to do and forgot that you would rather be doing something else?

2.   Choose one thing you have been doing because of others’ wishes that, if you were being true to yourself, you would do differently, and act on it. For example, perhaps you tend to host formal gatherings when you would rather have game night, or maybe you always serve a special dinner on Sunday, when you would prefer to do that on Friday.  Check in about what you are doing that is not actually for you, and how you can change this to fit who you are now.

3.   Speak up for yourself when you need to.  It may be daunting at first but, with practice, it becomes more natural.  We all have the right to live a life that makes us happy, and not feel that we are deferring who we are to others.  Speak up at work and in your personal life when you need to.  Sometimes this will be extremely uncomfortable and difficult, but the alternative is to compromise who you are.  Sometimes those around you don’t even realize that your needs are not being met, and speaking up moves the relationship forward and creates a more harmonious environment for all.

Who you really are is exactly what the world needs right now.  Your unique gifts, perspective, energy and experiences make you a unique being who can offer this world something no one else can.  This does not mean being in the spotlight, writing a book or getting your name out there.  You have an impact through every single person you interact with – let them experience who you are.

No matter what has happened in your past, you deserve to live fully and unapologetically as you!

What are you doing today to take a step into claiming who you are fully?

Many Blessings,
Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022