Mindful Thinking

Our thoughts are a part of us based on the experiences, interactions, and teachings we have had.   When we able to be mindful, observant, and intentional with our thoughts, we are able to direct how our day goes.  Doing this each day allows us to change the entire trajectory of our lives. 

It is critical that we begin to really watch our thoughts and choose thoughts that support us. When life feels overwhelming and we are experiencing challenges or high-stress situations, it becomes difficult to be aware of our thoughts.  Paying attention can help us to find clarity and peace through the chaos.  It can help us to clear a path to a solution.

As we become more aware of the thoughts we think, we becomemeditation 1837347 640 empowered to control the narrative of our lives.  Our thoughts form our beliefs.  If you think a thought often enough, it becomes a belief.  That belief then influences how we proceed and the success we have on that specific subject.

Thoughts are just thoughts until we add feelings to them, and begin to tell stories around them that remind us of sad, challenging and painful times.  Then those thoughts gain a momentum and power in our lives, influencing the story we tell about ourselves.

What would it be like if we could just observe our thoughts?   What would it be like to just be with our feelings no matter how challenging they are at times – without adding narratives and story lines from the past, from the future, and maybe even from the now?

Just today, be aware of the thoughts you think.  Do you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself or a situation?   Do you notice feelings attached to this?  Take it one step further.  What is the belief you have attached to this subject?  Is this a belief that needs to change?   If so, can you change your original thought to something a little better?  

Your feelings are your guidance system, making you aware when something does not fit who you are.  There is no judgement in the feelings you have; there is no right or wrong way to feel.  Can you be with your feelings on a certain subject without attaching the weight of where they stem from?   Do you have feelings that you wear like invisible weights, dragging you down?  Take a moment to sit with your feelings on a subject you are struggling with.  Notice each feeling as it comes up.  Honor that feeling for guiding you and allowing you to see what doesn’t fit who you are. If this feeling does not serve you any longer, dissolve and send it into the ether, releasing it.  What would you rather replace this feeling with instead?   This is not an easy path, but taking stock of the thoughts we think, the feelings we attach to them and the stories we tell, allows us to begin healing step by step, and create a life that fits with who we are.

As we choose our thoughts with greater purpose, we can raise our vibration, and create our life anew.

What action are you going to take to be more mindful of your thoughts?

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022