Rebuilding your world within change

When we are faced with unexpected change, we suddenly need to adapt.  We can dig our heels in and fight against the change or we can flow with it.

Now that we have tools to deal with change, the next step is recreating our normal to something that works with our lifestyle and who we are.

To recreate our normal we have to figure out what works and what doesn’t. When we had to go intoYou may not be there yet but you are closer than you were yesterday lockdown in our respective countries, we learned new habits and practices.  It is a good time to look at these habits and ask yourself, “Does this habit or practice still serve me?”  If it does, and it brings you joy, and is something that makes you feel more fulfilled, keep it up.  Ask yourself, “What else can I do to support this practice?”  If a practice does not serve you, can you eliminate it?  If not, what can you replace it with that is better for you?

Make a list of all the things you do daily such as exercise, watching television, daily eating habits, etc.

Next to each item on your list, ask yourself if you are completing this task in a way that feels good and serves you.  Do you need to do this item every day?  If yes, how can you do it in a way that fits you? Are you doing it because you want to, or because of external expectation? Perhaps you are going to gym because you’ve always done this, but you don’t enjoy the exercise. If so, you may want to experience a different type of exercise such as yoga.  Perhaps you found your eating habits are unhealthy.  You can consciously choose to make healthier choices when you buy groceries. Use this technique to find the daily routines and habit that work for you, and those that don’t. 

For many people, this time in our world has left them in a state of upheaval. People are emotionally drained, mentally exhausted with what is going on around them, and life may feel like a struggle.

If you are in this space, add a daily practice first thing every morning.  Set the tone of the day you wish to have by beginning your day with a practice that leaves you fulfilled, energised and excited.  Instead of listening to the news, checking messages and email, give to yourself first. Put on an inspiring audio or meditate.  Make this a daily habit, like brushing your teeth.  At first it may feel uncomfortable or ridiculous, but as you open yourself up to an inspiring daily practice, you will start to see a shift in your state of mind. This will have ripple effect on your external environment.  

Normal can be defined by society’s standards or we can consciously choose to create a normal that fits us.  We are all shaped by our experiences and what fits others may not be right for us.   Choose to create habits, practices and days that fit who you are and what is important to you.

What daily practice do you engage in that sets the tone of your day?

Many Blessings,






This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022