Communication with self is likely the most important form of communication that exists. Every word, action and subsequent decision starts with how we perceive and speak to ourselves.

Firstly, take time to listen to the way you really talk to yourself.

  • What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake?
  • What words do you use to describe yourself?
  • Would you use those words to describe your best friend?

While you are at home, without the white noise, take some time to get to know yourself. 

  • Ask yourself one new question every day and write the answer down.
  • Your answers will change as you grow, but it is a place to start to know who you are and what matters most to you.
  • Knowing yourself will help you understand why you make the decisions you do, and where you want to grow as a person.

Next, pay attention to your emotions.

  • Emotions are indicators of where we are and what is really going on.Blog 5
  • What are your emotions about yourself?
  • Recognize your emotions. Notice what they are telling you about a situation, person or about yourself.
  • Use your emotions as a guide.
  • If you find yourself feeling and speaking in a negative way about yourself, give yourself the credit for noticing. Then forgive yourself and change the narrative. Keep at it until it becomes your new truth.

A great way to reset your emotions is by using the tool of gratitude.

  • Taking a few moments to think or even write down five things you are truly grateful for, can help activate your “reset” button and move you towards feeling better.
  • Being truly grateful is not about creating a list of good things but rather about letting the feeling of gratitude wash over you with each thing you write down, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem.
  • Gratitude can help you change the trajectory of a “bad” day and stop you from spiraling into a negative state of mind.

What do you do to move yourself to a positive state of mind? Share and let me know.

Be Well, Be Blessed


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This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022