Step 11. Honoring each other’s authenticity

Dear Reader, coming from love in all we do is not the easiest thing.  To remember,  in the moment of interaction, to stay in loving kindness, is something we all need to focus on and work on constantly.

Too often we “feed the beast” in our interaction, responding to our partner as if they are the behavior, attitude or action they are exhibiting in that moment.  Then we respond accordingly, making the situation worse.

To let go, step back, and focus on coming from love takes both practice and awareness of living from love, honoring our light and mindfulness.

Step 11. Honoring each other’s authenticity:

We are not our behaviors and attitudes; we are not even our actions.

We just are LIGHT, LOVE, CONSCIOUSNESS. be 1362307 480

Recognize each other and remember each other, even when the authentic self is not showing up, or when you  would rather not see it, for seeing it is letting go of the drama.

So, when your partner’s non-authentic self is presenting itself, stay in loving kindness. 

Agree to disagree and postpone the discussion.

Stay in loving kindness always.

  • How can you remind yourself to stay in loving kindness in the moment of conflict?
  • What can you do right now to honor your own authenticity – to live in and always come from love, light and consciousness?

4 thoughts on “Step 11. Honoring each other’s authenticity”

  1. Thank you visiting the website. Please share it friends and family. Hope you always find fruits for your soul and mind.

    Santa

  2. Thank you visiting the website. Please share it friends and family. Hope you always find fruits for your soul and mind.

    Santa

  3. Thank you visiting the website. Please share it friends and family. Hope you always find fruits for your soul and mind.

    Santa

  4. Thank you visiting the website. Please share it friends and family. Hope you always find fruits for your soul and mind.

    Santa

Comments are closed.

Discover more from Clinical Holistic Psychotherapy by Santa

Subscribe now to keep reading and get access to the full archive.

Continue Reading

RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022