Step 9. Taking a fearless and moral inventory of self

Dear Reader, one of the toughest journeys we face in life is the journey of self-discovery.

Truly knowing, understanding and accepting oneself is something we as human beings spend our lives attempting to achieve.

But it is not just a matter of knowing yourself – to truly grow into your best you, you need to be honest with yourself about yourself. And that is the hard part.

To really know and accept who you are – something that is vital to your success, to discovering your power, and living a joyous and happy life filled with sacred relationships – you need be fearless and truthful with yourself.

So how does one do this?

Step 9. Taking a fearless and moral inventory of self:

Agree to be in constant exploration and evaluation of yourself –honestly evaluate yourself.9. source 1100779 340

Be committed to apologizing when necessary and coming back to admit when you are wrong. Say you are sorry and take responsibility for your story/issues/illusions and wounds.

Make amends where it is necessary.

Know that it is okay to be wrong, vulnerable, and imperfect.

Be committed to your personal awareness.

Stop whatever you are doing at this moment, find a quite space, and acknowledge that you are important, special and worthy. Now take the next ten minutes to spend with yourself taking a fearless moral inventory of you.


  • What have you discovered about you, dear Reader? Be honest with yourself.
  • Based on your discoveries, what can you do right now in your life to improve yourself or your situation?



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022