The Love Exchange

To give someone a drink of water, you first need to fill the cup.   You can only give as much as you have.  Fill you own cup and you have more to give another.

Love works in much the same way.   Love is a cycle of giving and receiving.  We can only give love when we feel the love to give.  Life has a way of making us forget that our being needs love too and that it is acceptable to give to one’s being first.

When we feel love for self, we fill our being. In turn we have more love to give others.  When we don’t give love to self, eventually our personal cup, our being, runs dry.  We need to replenish our being byTwo hearts touching against a sunset background taking time each day to practice self-love.    The more we make self-love part our day, week, and month, the more natural it feels.  There are things we do each day, that we added to our day out of necessity, such as exercising, that have now become a normal and expected part of our day.  We can do the same by consciously choosing to practice self-love until it becomes part of each day.  We can step into the flow of giving and receiving love each day, and with practice, in each interaction throughout the day.

A few ways to step into the cycle of love:

Give love by:

  • Showing kindness to all beings.
  • Choosing to walk into every interaction from a place of love.
  • Being yourself. The best love you can give another is by showing up fully, as who you are.
  • Giving yourself permission to release experiences and people that do not serve you. You are better for letting those people and experiences go and not dragging them into future interactions.

Receive love by:

  • Accepting a compliment without dismissing yourself as ordinary.
  • Allowing people to give you a gift. You are giving them the opportunity to give love to you.
  • Accepting assistance – when someone offers a helping hand that you need at that moment, and they offer it without expectation, accept it. They are showing their love for you.
  • Giving others the opportunity to do for you what you freely do for them.
  • Taking a moment to acknowledge the love that is flowing to you.
  • Acknowledging that you matter too. Accept love by loving yourself and practicing self- love each day, filling your being.

A self-love daily practice can be as simple as waking each day and being aware of how you think, speak and feel about yourself.  From this awareness, when you catch yourself judging or speaking poorly about yourself, consciously choose better thoughts and words about yourself until the old programming falls away.

Loving yourself allows you to fully love others.

What have you done today to give or receive love? Share in the comments and inspire others.

Many Blessings,

Santa

 

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022