Why Receiving is Giving

Another way of showing love and nurturing self, is to receive.

Receiving is giving.  When we give compliments or gifts to another, we feel good.  We feel empowered through our ability to give to another person.

In the same way, when we receive, we are giving another the opportunity to experience those same feelings. We allow the other person to experience the power of giving.

Receiving is another way to nurture self. When someone gives you a compliment, do you dismiss it and downplay what they are complimenting you on? Most of us do this.Spiral journal with the words give and receive.  Arrows point to each   We have been taught since we were young to be humble and gently deflect the compliment by dismissing ourselves as ordinary. Can you rather accept the compliment, allow the words to fill your being, and genuinely give thanks by acknowledging the gift? 

We acknowledge our worth when we receive what is given to us through love.  If we dismiss the gift or try to deny it, we deny who we are.  We diminish our worth.  Receiving is recognizing that we deserve the gifts we are being given.  Someone sees you, hears you and recognizes you.  This exchange allows them to give to you, and allows you to receive.

We can receive in various ways:

  • The most common is compliments and praise.  When someone praises us, we can receive this by acknowledging the truth of their words and taking the words in, allowing this truth to bolster us.  If the words are true, and the person sharing them believes that truth about us, we can use the gift we are being given to shore up our belief in self.  Someone sees something worth praising in you – recognize that this is their experience of you and believe it. Receiving their compliment also gifts them the position of being the giver, and acknowledges their effort and caring in taking time to praise you.

  • Sometimes receiving is listening to the wisdom of God/Source/Universe, receiving the message and, if we are ready, acting on this wisdom.   Listen for the wisdom waiting to come to you, receive it and bask in the love that comes with this wisdom.  Listening and allowing this connection raises your vibration, with the knowledge that you are always supported and loved.

When you begin to receive you will notice more and more gifts that come into your life each day.  Receive a smile, a hug, a gesture, and receive the big things like compliments, gifts, praise and wisdom that enter your life each day.

Receiving is an act of self-love.  Love yourself by allowing yourself to receive the gifts that come into your life through all avenues and acknowledge that you are worthy of these gifts.

What gifts do you notice in your life today? 

Many Blessings,

Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022