How often do you talk yourself out of things? We are taught from a young age that putting ourselves first is selfish and that we need to earn the right to go after an opportunity. This teaching creates the mindset that, for example, we are not enough to go after that dream job, or that someone will be better off getting it instead. So we learn to talk ourselves out of the things we really want and also to sacrifice them.
When an opportunity arises, instead of saying no to yourself, check in and see why you are talking yourself out of it. Often the reasons we do this are from fear, feeling that we need to be the best at something before we can attempt it, or that someone needs it more than we do.
Fear can become our greatest limitation or a powerful motivator. If we let the fear of not being good enough or not being qualified or worthy enough stop us, we remain stuck. Instead, we can use the fear for our highest good – we can look at what we fear would happen, and how we can counter this. If our fears are warning us of danger, we can listen to what they are really saying and determine how we can use them to empower ourselves.
The other reason we say no to ourselves is the feeling that we need to be the best at something first before we can even consider it. This idea is false and likely comes from school days. There will always be more to learn about everything, and as long as you are always one step ahead of those you are leading, you are in good stead to go for your dream opportunity or business. 
As for someone else needing the opportunity more – why not you? If an opportunity is something that matters to you, it is absolutely right that you go after it. Anything else would leave you feeling unfulfilled, and life is meant to be a joyous experience.
It is time to give yourself permission to say YES to yourself every day.
Start by doing the following:
- Add daily self-care practice to your morning routine. The simple of act of practicing self-care affirms to yourself that you are important. Starting your day with a self-care practice puts you at the top of your to-do list, and everything from that point onwards can only go better.
- Spend time on your dream. If you are not living a life that feels fulfilling, you end up being stuck where you are. If something matters to you, add in dedicated time to spend on it. When you say yes to you, everything in your life lines up to make it work.
- Feel the fear but step bravely forward: Going after a dream or saying yes to yourself about something that matters is uncomfortable at first. If you can step past the discomfort, the world opens up for you. Take that first step anyway and, in understanding where the fear comes from, let it motivate you forward.
Today, say YES to yourself about at least one thing that is important to you. Join us in community as we explore this topic and more!
Many Blessings,
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