You Were Born to Stand Out

We live in a world where we are encouraged to fit in and keep up with current styles and trends.  We learn at a young age that being different means being teased or put down. Careless phrases we heard as children, or as adults from colleagues or in our personal relationships, may still be having a ripple effect on how we view ourselves. 

We came into this world knowing who we are, and loving who we are.  Well-meaning loved ones, caregivers, teachers, and every person we interacted with along the way, reframed how we now see ourselves.  Whether we realize this or not, the decisions we make in our lives are impacted by this view of ourselves.  We may find ourselves rejecting opportunities or saying no to things we reallyWhy fit in when you were born to stand out want because we don’t think we deserve them, and not realizing that this stems from the old, external programming given to us on our journey.

Now is the time to claim who we are fully and freely.

It is time to celebrate who you are and everything that makes you, you.   Fitting in means losing who you are – you are not born to fit a mold, but to shine your unique light in this world.  We all bring unique gifts and traits to every interaction.  Sometimes all it takes is your silent presence to completely change the energy of a space and positively impact someone’s life.

  1. Spend time each day giving gratitude for all the things you love about your body. You once loved your body without thought, before all the external voices and judgments, and the past experiences, changed the way you see yourself now.   The more we focus on the things we love about our bodies, the more we love about our physical beings.   Our self-love continues to expand.

  2. Make a list of the characteristics that are most you. This may include things you have been taught to sensor or silence.  Perhaps you are someone who is very vivacious but were told you talk too much so you have learned to silence yourself as a result.   Knowing the characteristics that are you at your core, allows you to bring them forth in a way that serves you, enabling you to reject old programming about them.

  3. There is always a tribe that fits you – you just need to find it. If the people you spend time with constantly put you down or try to change who you are, it is time to find a new circle.  Choose people that you connect with, not people you think you should be spending time with.

We are in this lifetime, and it is time to make the most of it.  Choose to celebrate yourself in every way, stand out, and shine brightly. The world is waiting for you!

Many Blessings,



This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022