Your Innate Resilience

We as humans are incredibility resilient.  When we need to adapt, we implement the necessary changes. When we need to restructure our lives, we find a way to make our new lives work.  We have evidence of this throughout our lives.  If you look back, you will realize that there were many moments in your past when your sheer resilience carried you through.

Let’s acknowledge our resilience.  As the new year starts out, we set intentions for what we wish this year to be. We have hopes and expectations that we feel brave enough to begin to implement.  In this space, we may find that we wobble.

We are resilient enough to follow through with our intentions and plans for this year. Resiliency  Often when we stop to measure our progress, we find that either there appears to be no progress or alternatively we find that where we are is far below what we expected. We may feel that we are failing, or we just give up.  This is the moment to call upon our resilience and keep on with our path, with the knowledge that we are in fact moving forward.  Much progress cannot be measured, rather, the results of our path will only appear later.  To others, it appears as though our plan came to fruition overnight.

Sometimes change takes longer than we expect or perhaps requires more effort than we realized and intended to put into it.  Our resilience that we all have by nature, allows us to endure, to continue to move forward even if those plans do not appear to be taking shape.  Sometimes this means we need to readjust what we put forth into that desire, while at other times we need to remind ourselves that we are powerful creators and can stay the path.

The benefits of our intentions do not show up as soon as we have implemented them.  They often do not show up in the timeframe we expect.  Much of what is happening, takes place where we cannot see or measure it.  It is the continuous small steps that may not appear to be impactful, yet, when strung together make up the result – the achieved desire.

Take five minutes to briefly look back at your life.  Those big moment that stood out for you are often the result of many small steps of resilience.  Do you recognize your resilience that made those outcomes possible?  Make a list of instances when your resilience shine through.

What plan or expectation are you in the process of implementing that you are feeling a little insecure about? Know that you have the ability to implement your plan.  Know that you are a powerful, resilient being, and if you have a desire, your intention is already part of the way to reality.  Hold onto your resilience, keep moving forward and watch the dream become your truth.

In what ways have you found yourself being unexpectedly resilient? Share and inspire others.

Many Blessings,

Santa

 

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022