Seeking Love

The overwhelming situations that exist right now globally can leave us feeling alone.  Yet, we are not alone.  We share many commonalities and have common needs regardless of where we are.  These include the need to be seen, heard, acknowledged and appreciated.  As much as we need to receive this, we can also give it.  Sharing love, kindness and understanding with another is the simplest and most powerful way to change our world.

Love exists through kindness, caring, compassion, understanding, friendship and the deep love we feel towards those closest to us.  If we seek love all round us, we will find it. 

Remind yourself of all the ways you are loved and all the ways you can return this love:

  • The basic human connection you get from another, such as a stranger smiling at you, someone starting a conversation with you while standing in a line, or a kind voice on the phone.
  • The honest, freely-given kindness from another, such as someone assisting you when they don’t have to, or someone doing something that saves you the effort of you having to do it yourself.
  • The love of friendship such as a friend who checks in on you through messages and phone calls, letting you know that you matter, your well-being matters and your happiness matters to them.
  • The love of family including the unique love gifted to you from your children, partner or relatives.
  • The love of being pushed out of your comfort zone, such as someone challenging you to be more or step up so that you can achieve your desires.
  • The love that comes from praise and acknowledgment, such as someone complimenting you publicly or telling others about your unique skills.Love

There are so many more examples and I challenge you to seek out all the love in your life that constantly comes your way.

Know that all this love is around you and recognize where it comes from – tap into it and in turn, share the love with others.

Acknowledge all the people who love you and the varied ways they show that love:

  • Show love in every interaction you have. This includes being patient, listening to others’ needs, and understanding rather than reacting.
  • Let those from whom you are receiving love know what it means to you. In turn practice acts of love toward them too.
  • Live in a space of gratitude by recognizing acts of love and caring towards you, and you will lift yourself up. This in turn will help boost those around you.

Whatever we seek, we will find.

Seek love and you will find love, kindness, caring , hope and understanding.

We choose how we feel.  We can choose to make others smile, to bring joy to each person we encounter, and to show love in every experience.

What loving act did you experience today that was both a surprise and a joy to you?

Be well, Be Blessed

Santa

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RUNNING THROUGH DARKNESS
MEMOIR OF A SPIRITUAL WARRIOR

BY SANTA MOLINA-MARSHALL ‧ RELEASE DATE: MAY 3, 2022

This debut memoir chronicles a woman’s spiritual exploration and growth as she overcame a disturbing childhood and helped others heal.

Brought to America from the Dominican Republic as a youngster, Molina-Marshall should have led a happy life. Her father was a diligent worker, and his large family wanted for nothing. But the author recounts that her dad had a drinking problem and was a serial philanderer. Molina-Marshall’s long-suffering mother left him for a woman. Then it was all downhill for the bright, 12-year-old girl, who was shuttled between foster care and relatives. According to the author, she was sexually abused by the husband of one of her siblings. This resulted in Molina-Marshall becoming alienated and moody. By 15, she simply tried to survive. In her favor were grit and a restless intelligence. She quit school, rented a room, and found a factory job. Time went by, and for a while she was happily married. Yet when her husband left her, her life truly began. She turned to religion for answers but decided that blaming God for her woes was a cop-out. 

In this absorbing and moving memoir, Molina-Marshall’s vivid storytelling is fearless. She frankly discusses the truths she discovered and the indignities she suffered. These admissions are disclosed with a touch of resignation and plenty of bite. However painful, everything she experienced was a lesson, and she bravely realized that she was part of the problem: “The fear of being hurt, rejected, or abused often led to me feeling lonely and misunderstood. No one knew the agonizing pain I felt being trapped in my thoughts and anger. I was becoming my biggest threat.” 

The author skillfully recounts her intricate spiritual journey. To deal with her psychic wounds, she searched for an inspirational system. Her open-mindedness led her to the interfaith concept—cherry-picking from various religions and spiritual movements, yoga, and Indigenous beliefs as a way of finding peace. Along with her female partner, she built a therapy practice, making use of every spiritual element that aided her and others. The road was bumpy, and she found that women of color in same-sex relationships were not welcomed everywhere. To do good works—and finally live on her own terms—she effectively overcame bigotry.

An engrossing, cathartic account of empathy and success through determination and confidence.

Pub Date: May 3, 2022   |    ISBN: 978-0-578-38315-6  |   Page Count: 264    | Publisher: From Trauma to Triumph  |   Review Posted Online: June 13, 2022